When's the last time you put on sexy, skimpy lingerie and strutted your stuff in front of your lover? Or made love with the lights on?

If you're response was a heavy "Ugh!" sound and a roll of your eyes, then this article is being written just for you!

What happened to that confident girl who could take on the world? Where did the self esteem and sexiness go?

Many women I know have spent years caring so much for others that they have completely neglected themselves. They have gained weight and gotten out of shape. So they feel unattractive, guilty and shameful. The last thing they want is to be seen naked, even by their husbands. Consequently their sex life, and their marriages have taken downward spirals.

It's time to get reintroduced to the girl you used to be and merge her with the woman you have now become to create a sexy, confident YOU who is joyful about life, about love and about love making. Ladies, it's time to get your sexy back!

The three F's, Food, Fitness and Fluff!

Food: What you eat has a huge impact on how you feel. Eating large, fatty meal results in feeling heavy, bloated, lethargic, and full of gas. There is NOTHING sexy about that. Light, healthy meals create a feeling of satisfaction, cleanliness and fill your body with nutrition. After a meal like this the body is capable of feeling sexy!

Fitness: Physical activity helps tighten sagging muscles, aids in weight loss, and increases endurance, agility and flexibility. Exercise is critical to bringing your sexy back. Biking, walking, dancing, jogging, bootcamp, yoga, swimming, fitness classes and DVDs - these are all ways to add activity into your life. If it gets your body moving and sweating then it counts as physical activity.

Fluff: Pamper yourself! Treat yourself to a day at the spa or take a bubble bath at home. Light some candles, put on a face mask and some sexy music. Shave! Moisturize your skin, give yourself a manicure and pedicure, put on makeup, and do your hair. Remind yourself that YOU are important. Even if you can only fit it in once a month, put this 'YOU' time in your calendar, and don't cancel it!